Explain this SERENDIPITY and these COINCIDENCES?
norma2339 at charter.net
Sat Jul 19 04:45:05 EST 2003
"Lee W" <also_ran50 at hotmail.com> wrote in message
news:75157959.0307190033.a3445c6 at posting.google.com...
> I was adopted at 6 months, having been taken from my biological mother
> at 6 weeks. Apparently I did see my mother, who was 14 at the time.
> At 19 I developed an obsession with a girl, a fellow student aged 17.
> I'll called her Z.
> At 23 I fell in love with X, who I met through a music paper advert
> which I placed. We only sent each other letters for the first 3
> At 31, last year, I traced my mother, and she looks like an exact mix
> of X and Z: more like Z from the side, especially when she smiles;
> more like X from the front, inclusing eyes, chin, nose. It's really
> spooky. I had thought that my bond with X was related to our
> interests, and that my interest in Z was down to our outsider
> This isn't simply a case of a man going for women who remind him of
> his mother. I've seen that happen with a friend: he saw her in a shop
> and approached her, which is completely different. I hadn't seen X,
> the only respondant to my advert in an internationally distributed
> magazine. I have been quite a rational thing, having therapy and doing
> a degree, in English and Philosophy, in my teens and 20s instead of
> plumping for Dionysian excess.
> Also, while looking for my mother, I rang one number I found of a
> woman who had the same first name, and she turned out to be the
> cleaner of my mother's childhood home.
> So how does this work? (I feel like some character in an allegorical
> novel, tricky stuff in the postmodern age.) What happened here? Is it
> a message/gesture from 'God'? I've vaccilated between agnosticism and
> atheism since losing Christian faith, for all the right educated
> reasons, I think, in 1989.
> Am I missing something?
No, not at all. Most of us do things that make no sense and they turn out
to be wonderful. I was divorced after years of staying in the same house
(and only that) to "save the children". Well, it ruined too many lives, and
just now as a mature woman have I found someone for a companionship. Life
can eventually be beautiful. Good luck to you. Norma
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