Lax parents blamed for 'attention deficit' behaviour
DvdTurnbull at aol.com
Wed Jul 23 08:33:53 EST 2003
I feel angry by this statement as now people will believe that
children on ritalin have got parents that can't control them. What
about the parents wih a family of 3 children 2 are fine but 1 is on
ritalin as they have been diagnosed adhd. That can't be bad parenting
can it? It would be great to have lots of support from specialist
behavioural therapist on a weekly basis its no good having to wait 18
months for an appointment and then to be seen 6 months later if you
Jasbird <email@example.com> wrote in message news:<fa2nhvk1v4at8imvi22i2b3pvrp5oujto6 at 4ax.com>...
> I have a mate whose younger boy shows all the symptoms of a disruptive
> child. I was always a bit worried by the Jeckyl & Hyde approach to
> parenting shown. For instance my mate, PC would sometimes shout (or
> raise his voice aggressively) when the child misbehaved. His wife, IG,
> would cuddle the kid when he cried - as he invariably did when his
> father behaved like that. The result: reward with punishment and the
> kid is totally confused.
> PS: Use of ADD drugs is Britain has been greatly accelerating recently
> near to the level used in america.
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> Lax parents blamed for 'attention deficit' behaviour
> 21.07.2003 - 11.45am - By MAXINE FRITH - LONDON
> Hundreds of thousands of children prescribed the anti-hyperactivity
> drug Ritalin may simply be the victims of lax parenting, according to
> new evidence reported today.
> The work of a British expert has cast doubt on the existence of
> conditions such as Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), and will fuel the
> controversy over the spiralling use of Ritalin.
> Behavioural expert Warwick Dyer claims parents need to accept more
> blame for their children's "disorders" and move away from the chemical
> cosh of prescription drugs.
> In a remarkable breakthrough, he has developed a programme that
> focuses on the way parents behave towards their children - and in the
> last five years has claimed a 100 per cent success rate.
> Incredibly, he never sees the child involved, and has just one
> face-to-face consultation with their parents.
> The rest of his work is limited to a daily telephone briefing with the
> parents on how to treat their child.
> Mr Dyer's theory is based on simple ideas such as a rigid system of
> sanctions and rewards for good and bad behaviour, with an insistence
> on politeness towards parents - and a demand that mothers and fathers
> control their tempers as well.
> Mr Dyer said: "I am open-minded about whether ADD exists or not, but
> what is certainly clear is that a lot of symptoms ascribed to such
> disorders are in fact easily confused with basic behavioural problems
> that don't need to be treated with a drug.
> "Parenting is not a democracy. You need to give your child what they
> want - love and attention - but on your terms, not theirs."
> Mr Dyer's work is now the subject of a television documentary, to be
> broadcast tomorrow.
> One in 10 children is now diagnosed with ADD or the related Attention
> Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).
> Ritalin is an amphetamine with a similar potency to cocaine, and
> prescribing in Britain has soared one hundredfold in the last 10
> In 1990, just 3,000 children were on the drug; today, there are
> 345,000 taking it, costing the NHS more than (pounds sterling)3
> million a year. The drug is being now given to children as young as 18
> months old.
> Now a growing lobby of parents, doctors and other experts are
> questioning whether ADD or ADHD exist.
> Mr Dyer was a primary school teacher in the east end of London until
> he retired and set up the Behaviour Change Consultancy.
> He now sees around 30 families a year, and claims his techniques work
> with everyone, from the youngest children to teenagers.
> Mr Dyer said: "The problem is that a lot of parents simply aren't
> being parents.
> "In the last 20 years, parents have started talking to their children
> a lot more, but they have stopped being in control of them.
> "They have tended to examine how they were brought up and reject what
> they thought was bad, but they haven't taken on what was good.
> "Children are instinctively artful and will try to put themselves in
> control of their parents. I put parents back in control."
> Mr Dyer also demands parents lavish time and attention on their
> He said: "Some parents still hark back to their pre-child life and
> sometimes act as if they don't have children.
> "Your child needs love and attention. The programme is not based on
> the idea of spare the rod, spoil the child.
> " It's about giving children the right to make choices about their
> behaviour, but teaching them there are consequences with rewards and
> His "back to basics" approach worked to stunning effect with Fred and
> Diane from Essex, and their seven-year-old daughter Georgina, who are
> featured in the Cutting Edge documentary.
> Georgina had been prescribed Ritalin and had been diagnosed with
> special needs because of her appalling temper tantrums and violent
> She was expelled from her first playgroup at the age of two and a
> half, and her parents were so desperate that last year they had
> decided to put her into care.
> But within weeks of adopting Mr Dyer's techniques, Georgina's
> behaviour had improved.
> Fred, who runs a wedding video business and Diane, a civil servant,
> had to spend seven months in daily phone calls to Mr Dyer, where they
> had to describe her behaviour in detail, and accept castigations from
> the expert when they deviated from the sanction system.
> At one point he told the couple: "It's not her fault that you can't
> control her. She has wrapped you around her little finger.
> "You aren't accepting that there isn't anything wrong with your
> By the end of the seven months, Georgina was having less than two
> tantrums a month and while her special needs diagnosis was being
> Diane said: "The change has been incredible. This has all been done
> without Ritalin. Before, I hated her. Now, she is a normal child. I
> feel guilty when I look back to how I treated her before."
> Janice Hill, of the Overload Network, said: "Warwick Dyer has shown
> that the idea of ADHD is a myth.
> "Children are being given a drug that has the same pharmacology as
> cocaine when in fact all they and their parents need are help with
> their behaviour.
> "Doctors should stop dishing out Ritalin and start using safe
> alternatives which have been proven to work."
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