Should I change my surname?
becker at hal4.usm.uni-muenchen.de
becker at hal4.usm.uni-muenchen.de
Mon Feb 13 08:10:05 EST 1995
In article <3hbf4q$hja at gazette.bcm.tmc.edu>, ktimms at imgen.bcm.tmc.edu (Kristen M Timms) writes:
: In article <3h6u42$ves at quartz.ucs.ualberta.ca>, dmerriam at gpu2.srv.ualberta.ca (Deborah Merriam) writes:
: |> Hello all,
: |> I am getting married this coming summer, and I'm trying to decide whether
: |> to keep by birth name as-is or take my beloved's surname. I am currently
: |> working toward my M.Sc. (and hopefully my Ph.D.) in Experimental Medicine,
: |> and I'm extremely fortunate to have a publication to my credit already
: |> from my undergraduate research in a related field of lipid biochemistry.
: |> My fiance is finishing up his M.A. in Sociology - so people assuming that
: |> I'm actually his research assistant because we work in the same field
: |> won't be a problem for me (a concern that one of my mentors in my
: |> department brought up when I asked for her advice). My dilemma is more
: |> straightforward: will changing my surname, now that I have published under
: |> my "maiden" name, affect the way that my publication record is viewed down
: |> the road? Are there other ways in which a change of surname can affect my
: |> career?
: |> As I see it, my options are:
: |> 1 - keep my current surname for all purposes
: |> 2 - change my surname to coincide with my beloved's (and keep my maiden
: |> name as a new middle name, if I choose)
: |> 3 - keep my name for business purposes, and use his for personal purposes
: |> 4 - hyphenate (an excellent idea except that our surnames sound hideous
: |> together ;-)
: |> 5 - have *him* take *my* surname (but he has some publications, too)
: |> 6 - make up our own surname (cute idea, but completely impractical)
: |> Thanks in advance for your advice. This is a wonderful newsgroup!
: |> Deborah Merriam
: |> dmerriam at gpu.srv.ualberta.ca
: I got married on Jan 20 - about three weeks ago. For me this decision was
: very easy with the only possible option being #1. I couldn't imagine any
: reason for me to want to change my name, and I could think of a lot of
: reasons why I should not change it. My family were very supportive of this -
: in fact I think they would of had more difficulty with the idea of me
: changing my name. My husbands family have been far less impressed - and we
: have even received letters addressed to Mr and Mrs Craig Pierson - blerk!
: Talk about loosing your identity. I also have a number of publications under
: my "maiden" name - but for me this is not the major reason why I haven't
: changed my name - tho' it has given me an excuse when being grilled by the
: in-laws. I think ultimately this decision can only be yours - you have to
: choose the solution that you feel most comfortable with - afterall you're the
: one that has to live with the decision. If you choose to keep your own name
: and also have children then I guess you should also face the possibility that
: the same problem is going to arise again in the future. For my part I'm a
: firm believer in the idea that the woman who does the work should get the
: credit - so I can imagine the howls of protest that my in-laws are going to
: make if I ever introduce them to their grand-child Junior _Timms_.
: Whatever decision you make I don't think it will
: have any real impact on your professional life. For me it was
: more about how I identified with myself than any possible effect on my
: career. Really I guess the only answer to the question is that you are
: the only person who knows the answer.
: Anyway, congratulations on your marriage.
: Kirsten Timms.
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