Judi Lapsley Miller
Judi.Lapsley.Miller at vuw.ac.nz
Sat Apr 6 22:15:45 EST 1996
Robbin L. G. Long wrote:
> Amen to that. I did not really change my name when I
> married, I just tacked my husband's on to it. My full name
> is "Robbin Lynn Gibson Long", no hyphen. I did it for a
> myriad of reasons; first, I felt like it promoted family
> unity; second, I was not raised by, nor am I particularly
> attached to, my natural father; third, I have to admit to a
> streak of rebelliousness against our anglo-saxon biased
> beaurocracy which seems to insist on the use of three name
> fields (hyphenating my name just seemed to feed into this).
> For this reason, I insist that all four names are used and
> am in a war with the Social Security Administration over
> this. A pretty small thing to rebel against, I admit, but I
> think the three name field thing is culturally biased.
Yay! I'm not the only one. I hate hyphenation so I decided to go the
four name route as well. The major benefit for me is that it makes it
easy to go by all three names: my maiden name, my husbands name, or
both. In particular, his surname (Miller) is common whereas mine
(Lapsley) is not. So when I want anonymity (sp?) I go by Miller. My
'professional' name, however, is unusual so hopefully memorable :-)
As for changing my name - its been a bloody hassle to put it mildly!
People always want me to put the hyphen in - and will even 'correct'
forms that I have filled out!! Went through three Visa cards before they
got it right - when I told them there was no hyphen they tried it with
no space either (duh!). Banks were the worst. I don't use a title either
which stuffs up their silly databases. Oh, and my first name is a
variant spelling too. No wonder I cringe when people ask me my name.
Maybe I'm just a bit contrary :-)
> My hypothetical children (as I am not committed to the idea
> of having any, these are very hypothetical) will bear their
> father's name, be they male or female. Why? Well, you have
> ample physical witness to who your mother is; the paternal
> surname is just a mother's way of publically declaring
> (admitting?) who the father is. Not foolproof, obviously,
> but tradition usually has pretty pragmatic social roots,
> even if currently outdated and unnecessary.
If fate ever have me go down this path, I guess the kids would go by
Miller, with Lapsley as a middle name - then they can choose what they
Judi Ann Lapsley Miller (and proud of it!)
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