are you the secretary?

jcoleman at jcoleman at
Wed Feb 28 18:36:11 EST 1996

In article <199602262156.NAA21165 at>, eoshuster at UCDAVIS.EDU (Beth Shuster) writes:
>On Mon, 26 Feb 1996 12:21:34 -0400, mcb10 at (Peggy Barr) wrote:
>>This is one of my pet peeves, although I don't usually respond to it.  I
>>have not one but two degrees (DVM and PhD) which entitle me to "Dr." as
>>much as the next person, yet I am frequently called "Ms. Barr" or "Mrs.
>>Barr" (I am married, but my husband's last name is Stuart).  I usually
>>ignore it (or say please call me by my first name), unless the offense is
>>committed by someone I will continue to see - it sounds a little absurd to
>>say "excuse me but I'm DR. Barr...."  What do you think?  Should I
>>continue to ignore it or call attention to the error?
>  My favorite response to this is to politely say something like,
>"Actually, it's Dr., but you can call me Beth".  Or:  "If you must use a
>title, please call me Dr. or Ms., otherwise, call me Beth".  These
>responses generally get the point across without insulting the other
>  I am generally far less annoyed when people call me Ms. then when they
>call me Mrs.  Although I've been married for almost 14 (gasp) years, I have
>never liked the term (after all, men's titles don't change to reflect their
>marital status, why should ours?).  That said, I try respect the wishes of
>women who prefer Mrs.
>Beth Shuster
>Univ. of California, Davis
>eoshuster at
*laugh* I also am somewhat shocked to be called Mrs. Coleman..I mean isn't that
my mother-in-law or my stepmother-in-law? I have been married almost 3 years
and I did change my name so the Coleman is right but I also prefer Ms. and
hopefully later on DR. COLEMAN...*maniacal laughter*

Jen Coleman

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