How do you handle it?
JFRUGOLI at BIO.TAMU.EDU
Tue Jul 8 12:21:40 EST 1997
Cassandra Smith wrote:
>This may sound strange but Ihave found the best way to deal with this
>1. Say "Please excuse me, what did you say?
> ....what do you mean by that?
I have to agree this is the best way to start. I'm sensitized to this
by my husband, who was accused by a lab mate of "jerk" behaviour when he
said "You look nice today" which he meant simply as a complement, as in
"what a neat Southern!" (I myself tell both men and women when they look
particularly nice.) The lab mate heard something along the lines of a
proposition took offense. When they finally cleared the air, they both
learned to respect each other's sensitive spots, and get along just
fine now. People who aren't jerks but just didn't realize they are
annoying you will stop after #1. Real jerks like Linnea mentioned won't
stop even after #2 (which I snipped out).
My 50 cents
visiting grad student at
Texas A&M University
Department of Biological Sciences
College Station, TX 77843
"Evil is best defined as militant ignorance."
Dr. M. Scott Peck
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