How do you handle it?
Mr. W.Y. Chan
wahchan at liverpool.ac.uk
Mon Jul 14 09:00:26 EST 1997
Deb Britt (Deborah_Britt at brown.edu) wrote:
: For some reason I was just thinking about the issue of sexual harassment,
: remembering when I was a grad student and I worked part time in a produce
: market. The wholesale dept. manager and his crew of teenage guys used to
: constantly make comments about my figure, my bra size, etc, every time I
: walked through their area. My approach was just to ignore it, but it
: didn't stop and I had to put up with it for a long time. Looking back, I
: realize I should have been much more assertive.
: No one should have to put up with harassment at work, and my advice now
: would be: corner the chief offender, look him straight in the eye, and
: tell him confidently and firmly that his comments are out of line and that
: you will not tolerate them any longer. Some of these guys just need to be
: called on their jacka** behavior. If the problems continue, start to
: document specific incidents, and take the issue up with your boss (major
: prof, dept. head, or whoever). Things aren't going to change unless you
: initiate it.
: Just my 2 cents
: Deb Britt
: In article <Pine.SGI.3.91.970708111254.16755C-100000 at umbi.umd.edu>,
: Kimberly Walker <walker at umbi.umd.edu> wrote:
: > I'm looking for information on how to deal with difficult men in your
: > labspace......
: > How do you all deal with men who remark too much on physical attributes,
: > cultural/racial differences, who exhibit racist/sexist behavior and are
: > all-around jerks effectively?
: > Kim
: Deborah Britt, Ph.D.
: Department of Medical Oncology
: Rhode Island Hospital
Sometimes the majority rules has the bigger say. What I mean is if you do take
up the issue with the boss there is very little he or she can do about it
apart from having a quiet word or in some cases you might get told to "learn
how to handle pressure in a working envirionment", some bosses will not run the
risk of loosing valuable employees and do their best to maintain good relations
so it may even depend on how economically viable you are compared to the many
culprit, if you complain too often you might even gets accused of being a
"loose cannon" and lose all trust as a team member. I understand it is
very difficult for you but unless it becomes blatantly intolerable it might
be worthwhile to play along with them or even make comment of these guys
physical attribute. Another thing which might be helpfull if possible is to
make friends with these guys wives or girlfriends or even with any female work
colleages perhaps even finding out any gossips or embarrasing tales (everybody
has one) about the men which you work with and really wind them up and joke
about it with them.
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