In article <MARDER.18.744302183 at agri.huji.ac.il>,
MARDER at agri.huji.ac.il (Jonathan B. Marder) writes:
[...]
>I don't quite agree. Crying or expression of anger can be appropriate
>responses to (different) circumstances. But they can also be inappriate
>which is when it gets embarrasing both for the person expressing their
>emotions and for the recipient. Ever spent several minutes yelling at the
>wrong person?
Note my caveat - gross generalization :)
> This said, there are also circumstances when the emotions can be used for
>manipulation. I know that I occasionally feign indignation/anger to make a
>point and I suspect that there are circumstances when crying would work
>too.
I was dealing with the case where manipulation was not being
considered - but point noted (in fact, someone noted it previously).
> As for gender differences, in our society the stereotype is for men to
>get angry, women to cry. However, a colleague who spent several months
>teaching in the Middle East remarked on how common it was for a male student
>to come into his office *crying* after failing an exam.
"Tends to" was in my post - for obvious reasons. But yes, I was
considering "Western" culture, it being the one with which I am most familiar.
Thanks for the reminder that there _are_ people with different cultural
backgrounds around , something that is easy to forget in this (ie netland)
situation, where names and addresses are not necessarily indicative of a
person's gender/background.
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