aloisia schmid (a-schmi at uiuc.edu) wrote:
> I have a new problem and i would appreciate some advice.
[snippage about an uncomfortable poster session (it sounded awful!)]
> This went on for a good long time. That evening we had our final meeting
> dinner together and I drank quite a bit too much wine and said quite a few
> things I regret. One of the people at my table was quite prominent and
> now I am mortified with embarrassment.
Ah! I did something similar at a meeting once. I was mortified for months
afterwards. Fortunately everyone else was drinking, too, so I keep hoping
they won't remember much of it. Fortunately they were people I'm not likely
to run into much. But I feel your pain....
> So my question is.....do I write to this person and apologize for poor
> judgement? If not, how do I quit beating myself up over this?
Although I don't know the details of the situation, my suggestion would be
to stop beating yourself up about it. Everybody does silly things, and
things that they later regret. I would hope the rest of the people at the
table would understand that. And maybe what you said wasn't really a big
deal to them. I wouldn't bring it up again to this person unless you really
insulted him or her specifically.
Again, I don't really know what happened, but it's done, and no amount of
worrying is going to change what happened or what you said. You're only
human - don't let it drive you crazy.
-gina
